Maried to a Foreigner

As a kid I was never told or talked to about dating outside my race. It wasn't until I was about 16 that my father and grandmother satdown with me and told me about their beliefs about dating outside our race. This was at a time when they had realized the guys I had dated where not white. They had no problems with other races, they just never realized the possibility of interacial dating in our family. At the time I was with a guy that actually had just moved from Jamaica with his family. I think that was the bigger shock to them. They had told me as long as I am happy there is no problem with who I date. Being a child of the 90's, at that time interacial dating where I lived was a big thing, but for a lot of people, it was still a big problem. I don't think you ever get used to the stares and the comments. When I met my husband, it was a huge difference because he was from India and he had only been here about 5 years. He had dated other american girls, but he did not know, I am not an ordinary american girl. My family was thrilled that I had met someone that was so nice to me and my son and good with him too. The one thing that people used to warn me about was the fact that he was from a country where woman were supposed to clean house and take care of kids and didn't argue against their husbands. Only thing with me, is that is NOT me. We have been together for 6 years and he still has a problem with adjusting the the differences. He has adjusted somewhat, but still we try to work things out. It might take some time, but he has promised to make changes. I have gained patience with him making the adjustments, and even though it is not easy, we are forever happy.